Bondage isn’t just about restraint—it’s about trust, connection and heightened sensation. Here are seven positions designed to deepen your bond, awaken your senses and keep the focus on pleasure. Each comes with essential safety advice and suggested gear for beginners and seasoned kinksters alike.
Foundations of Sensual Bondage
- Consent First: Discuss boundaries and agree a safeword (e.g., “red” for stop).
- Always Have Release: Keep quick-release scissors or tape cutters close by.
- Comfortable Gear: Use soft cuffs or body-safe bondage tape for gentle restraint.
- Regular Check-Ins: Monitor circulation and comfort every few minutes.
1. Side-by-Side Spooning
Lie on your sides, facing the same direction. Gently bind the wrists of the “little spoon” in front with soft cuffs. This intimate hold allows the “big spoon” to caress and explore every curve, from neck to inner thigh.
Tip: Add a silk blindfold for heightened tactile experience.
2. Reclined Lotus
The Dom sits legs crossed; the sub reclines back into their lap. Secure the sub’s wrists behind their head using lightweight rope or cuffs. This position combines deep eye contact with unrestricted access for caresses or toys.
Gear: Try our silicone wrist cuffs for comfort and style.
3. Gentle Hogtie Variation
Sub lies face-down with ankles and wrists bound softly behind the back—but keep the knees slightly bent for comfort. This moderated hogtie allows the sub to relax completely while offering the Dom space for sensual teasing.
Safety: Ensure the sub can breathe easily—avoid full extension.
4. Standing Embrace
Sub stands with back to the Dom, arms bound at elbow-height to a doorframe or sturdy post. This upright restraint provides thrilling vulnerability and allows the Dom to explore from behind with touch or toys.
Pro Tip: Use a soft door-jammer or over-the-door tie-out for quick setup.
5. Kneeling Reverence
Sub kneels upright; wrists bound behind their back at waist level, legs free. This posture emphasises service and worship—perfect for oral gratification or slow, deliberate caresses along the spine.
Enhancement: Add a leather collar and leash to underscore the power dynamic.
6. Crossed Connection
Sub lies supine; wrists tied to opposite ankles, creating an “X”-shape on the bed. This elegant bind offers full-body access and encourages slow, rhythmic exploration by the Dom.
Gear: Body-safe velvet rope set is gentle on skin.
7. Elevated Table Tease
Sub lies flat on a low table; wrists and ankles lightly secured at the corners. The Dom stands, allowing gravity-assisted penetration or teasing with fingers and toys, all while maintaining eye contact and control.
Note: Keep ties loose enough to adjust position and prevent discomfort.
Deepening Your Bond
Aftercare is vital: cuddle, hydrate, and discuss what you enjoyed. Bondage is as much about emotional connection as it is about sensation—tend to each other’s needs and watch your intimacy flourish.
