Strap-ons are a great but underrated sex toy, they are often universal, and many men and women indulge in play using strap-ons.
Men will often add one into their sexual routine if they are looking to add on a few extra inches to their penis, if they suffer from erectile dysfunction or to simply add a new dimension to their sexual play. Strap ons for men often feature clitoral stimulators and double penetration designs. Whereas a female may use a strap on dildo to become more dominant in the bedroom, finding a whole new confidence in taking charge.
So, whether you’re in a straight or same sex relationship, there isn’t anything stopping you from delivering some seriously great hip action. The universal strap-ons are compatible with some amazing realistic, veiny dildos, giving you a more life like experience or if you’re wanting to step it up a level, you could add a multi-speed vibrator with a wealth of length and textures to explore. Definitely a toy that can cater to everyone’s tastes.
Taking the time to experiment with new sex toys in the bedroom is always an incredible way of discovering and satisfying your sexual fantasies. It is also an encouraging way to step outside of your gender boundaries, as strap-on play requires submission, trust and intimacy.
How to Use a Strap-On
Male strap-ons are designed differently to universal strap-on, keeping in mind that men have already got a penis, so to ensure the use of a strap-on is as comfortable as possible for a man, their strap-ons are designed for their penis to fit into. Most of the male strap-on toys will have a hollow design, so the penis can fit inside them, allowing play to be more comfortable. Male strap-on can’t incorporate an internal penetration feature because there is simply nowhere for one to go! They also can’t be completely strapless, meaning options without a harness simply won’t work. However female strap-on toys can be worn internally, allowing the vaginal walls to keep them in place.
You simply attach the dildo to a harness, strap yourself in and adjust until you are comfortable. Some of the strap-on toys will offer a simple, subtle strap whilst others can be more obvious to enhance your dominating look. It doesn’t matter which style you decide to go for, as the attachment process remains the same.
Harnesses can be purchased with or without a dildo. You will find that generally the toy harness is compatible with many different shafts, giving you more bang for your buck. As long as your dildo has a flared base and can fit your harness, then you are able to experiment until you find the toy that hits the spot.
Pegging
Pegging is the ultimate key to role reversal; it describes a woman anally penetrating a man. This allows the woman to give him p-spot stimulation, like never before, giving her the power to discover how exciting it feels to be in control. A strap-on is great for those who enjoy power play, allowing them to deliver a punishment he’ll surely remember, as hard or slow as you like.
If it is your first time using a strap-on, don’t worry follow a few simple guidelines and you will soon be a penetration pro. It is recommended to start off using a finger, anal beads or butt plug to get you anus warmed up and ready. Once you feel you are ready to move on to the strap-on do so gently. Don’t rush it, it is often easy to get carried away, start of slow and allow him to adjust to the sensation.
It is important to make sure you use plenty of lubricants, as the anus isn’t naturally lubricated, so make sure you are very generous when applying it.
Penetration
Lesbian relationships can often be limited to the use of fingers or tongue for stimulation. Although the use of sex toys is fun and stimulating, you may find sometimes they can become a bit distracting, whilst you fumble around with the buttons trying to change the settings, you focus ends up more on the toy then pleasuring your partner’s body.
This is where strap-ons come into play opening up the option of hands-free sex and g-spot pleasure. Allowing you more variety of new positions to explore and playtime in the bedroom more intimate, fun and unrestricted.
Types of Strap-Ons
Harnesses
The classic harness style strap-ons will usually have removeable dildos, allowing for more versatile play. Giving you the opportunity to select a shaft that excites you, no more of the ‘one size fits all’, providing the dildo has a flared base and fit the harness, you can use pretty much any.
Keep in mind that your partner may prefer a selection of bulbous designs for more varied, unpredictable stimulation. A strap on harness allows you to work up to larger dildos in time.
Unfortunately, though harness strap ons don’t offer internal stimulation for the wearer.
Strapless
These have been specifically designed for women and delivers internal stimulation for both of you. Whether it is bulbous shape or curved to deliver G-spot stimulation, you simply slip the smaller shaft into your vagina and allow your muscles to hold the toy in place.
The strapless design leaves your body completely unobscured. Strapless designs are available in a selection of styles and features.
Practice definitely makes perfect when it comes to using strapless harnesses, as they aren’t securely fitted.
Double Strap Ons
Double strap ons are truly the best of both worlds, offering dual internal stimulation with the security of a harness.
It is completely down to personal choice on which style you go for. You may purely want to be the giver, or you may hate the look of a harness. At first a strap on might feel unusual, after all you don’t normally have an erect shaft down there! However, once you have become more familiar with wearing one and the sensation you get from it, you will love the fun it creates not only for you but your partner as well.
Tips for Using a Strap On
Strap ons can take a little time to get used to, especially if you're female as the likeliness of you being used to having an erect shaft down below is pretty slim.
Communication – this is essential, like with most things, but more so when participating in something which is as intimate as using a strap on. Be open and talk to your partner about what it is you both want to achieve from using it, going to pick a strap on together to give you both the choice of size and style and also talk about the positions you’ll be trying. If the plan is to use the strap on for anal penetration, then make sure you both talk about taking that step together.
Do your research – you may have already started but make sure you look into more about what you want from this experience. There are so many choices out there so make sure you check them all out to see which one best suit your desires.
Picking the right one – once you and your partner have talked everything through and done your research its time for shopping. Ask yourself what it is you want from it? Vibrations? A harness? Strapless? Then make sure you shop about to find the one that is perfect for you and your partner.
Wearing it correctly – If you have decided you want a harnessed strap on, then it’s a good idea to make sure it fits correctly. Harnesses vary, some have clips, some have O rings, and some don’t have anything. It is all down to personal preference, as with all sex toys, the main thing however is that it is correctly attached and in position.
Practice – when trying anything for the first time you will expect a few accidental pokes and some clumsiness. It will take a few attempts before you get the movements and aiming correct, so don’t be put off straight away. Try wearing the harness a few times outside of intercourse to give your body a chance to adjust to having it on, the weight and moving in it. It is recommended that the first time you use it the recipient moves onto the dildo rather than being penetrated, this will allow them to find a comfortable position and angle. This also allows you to start off slow and get used to the thrusting movements needed.
Lubricants – Like when using any sex toy, lubricants are essential for added sensual play. With strap on play it is even more important especially if being used anally. Reason being the anus doesn’t produce any natural lubricants, so use a very generous amount to avoid any cut or tears. Don’t forget to make sure you use the correct lube for the correct material.
