Heads up- I lied, we’re not actually bringing bendy back. Mostly because I’m fat and inflexible and I want to be able to cater for others reading this who have as much limberness as a tree trunk. I’ve rounded up five of my favourite sex positions that actually make sense. These are- hopefully- positions for the majority. None of this artistic gymnastics. No faffing getting into an awkward and uncomfortable bent double pose, only to realize you now need to unbend to grab a condom. No using your partner as a wheelbarrow, reminiscent of a primary school sports day. Just easy, casual, sex. We’re skipping over missionary though-not because it’s not good; missionary is my favourite because it’s low effort and I’m lazy- simply because if you’ve got this far, I’m assuming you already know how to do this one.
COWGIRL
It wouldn’t be a sex position article without a shout out to this classic. Also known as riding, or cowperson (gender isn’t important), this involves one partner lying on their back, and the other straddling them on top to lower themselves down onto the penis or strap on/dildo. Legs should be either side of the lying down partner's hips and from there both partners can grind, circle hips, or bounce up and down. Putting a pillow under the lying partner's hips can create a slope which makes it less tiring on your thighs. Feel free to lean forwards or back and find the exact angle which works for you both. You can also do this move facing away from your partner, known as the Reverse Cowgirl.
To add extra stimulation, add a vibrating cock ring into the mix! This can be used on a penis or strap on dildo for extra fun. If being used on a penis, it will create added firmness and help maintain the erection so you can ride even longer.
Our Classic Smoke Cock Ring is perfect.
LOTUS
The lotus position is perfect for intimacy between partners. One partner sits cross legged on a sofa, bed, or the floor and the other sits on top of them, facing them and wraps their legs around them. This can include penetration with a dildo or bottom partner's penis. Rock back and forth to grind and rub against each other. This position is versatile and instead of a penis, you can use fingers or toys for stimulation. You can also kneel or outstretch your legs if your hips ache or cramp.
A bullet vibe is small enough to be easily handled in the small space between your bodies and can provide extra clitoral stimulation.
This link will provide you with a sweet vibe for the occasion.
DOGGY
Get on your hands and knees and let your partner enter you from behind. This position is great for deeper penetration and g or p-spot stimulation depending on your anatomy. It may be more comfortable to lean forwards in this position with the receiving partners head down so their hips are higher than their head. The giver can be kneeling or standing (standing may give you deeper thrusts and more control). This is an excellent hands free position to concentrate on giving stimulation over the nipples or penis/clit at the same time as penetration.
If you’re usually the receiver and want to try something new, add a strap on into the mix to penetrate your partner. The universal harness will keep everything in place and although the act of thrusting can feel weird for those not used to it, this is an “easy access” position for beginners.
This Pegging Strap On is a great example - find it here!
ON THE EDGE
Have your receiving partner sit legs open on the edge of the bed (feet can be on the floor for extra stability but this is optional). The other partner can then kneel or stand depending on the height of the bed to penetrate, perform oral sex, or explore their body with everything easily on show. Great for humiliation due to their parted legs displaying everything for their partners pleasure. Try a pillow behind the back to lean back into if you’re having penetrative sex to get the angle for deeper thrusts.
If you’re struggling to keep your legs open and elevated, try using a spreader bar to relax into and take the strain off your leg muscles.
We have one right here that you can buy:
SPOONING
Both partners lie down, facing in the same direction and tuck your bodies flush up against each other and penetrate from behind. This position is super versatile and can be done vaginally or anally. The receiver can put an arm under their head for neck support. This position is fantastic for intimacy because it’s so relaxed and natural with full body contact.
Reach around to touch your partner for some extra hand-job action, or add a vibrator wand into the mix to really amp up the intensity - like this one:
