For the longest time I always argued that scissoring was a lesbian thing made up exclusively for porn. But it’s time to eat my words because I recently started trying it out and it is actually pretty fun (even if it is about as gymnastic as i’ll get in the bedroom).
So what exactly is scissoring?
To understand this, we also need to define tribbing. Tribbing is when two vulvas are rubbed together as a sexual act- scissoring is the position in which this is usually achieved. Scissoring is one specific position but often used interchangeably with tribbing.
Despite my complaints, scissoring doesn’t require too much flexibility. Both partners spread their legs and move together until they meet at the genitals. From there it’s just about wiggling and rubbing against each other however feels the most pleasurable. I prefer to do this facing each other (for intimacy purposes) but you can face away if you prefer. The name scissoring comes from the idea that when involved in this position your legs appear like open scissor blades.
Although penetrative sex may not occur, you can still stay safe against STDs by using a dental dam in this position. Because of the “rubbing” motion you may also want to use lubricant so chafing doesn’t occur.
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Is scissoring only for lesbians?
Despite being known as a “lesbian sex thing”, there’s really no reason why this position can’t be done by anyone with any genitalia, clothed or unclothed. If it feels like “scissoring” then call it that - no one can police it for you (other names can include "frotting" or "dry humping").
You could also introduce penetration if you wanted to - this position is customisable to what you want to do with it! Try adding a vibrating strap-on to the mix once you’ve mastered this position the traditional way!
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How can scissoring be 'spiced up'?
A double ended dildo would also work well in this position for two people with vaginas.
12 Inch Mini Double Dong Pink - £6.99
If you/ your partner has a penis then try adding a butt plug during this position for added stimulation. This vibrating set is sure to add extra fun!
Thrill Trio Purple Anal Plug Set With Vibrator - £19.99
What if I don't like scissoring?
Just remember that not every position will work for every body and, if scissoring isn’t your thing, there’s a ton of other positions out there to try instead! Check out this previous blog post for more ideas.
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